This condition is more common than you think and as the press keep saying it is increasing all the time. There are many who probably don't even know they have the condition.
Milkman, your Mum obviously needs some support. This is what I was saying in my earlier post, that the psychological side needs just as much support as the physiological side. Most who get this become lost, it is especially difficult if you get it at an older age because you have had a lifetime of eating and drinking what you want and when you want. It is very important to have a scheduled diet (in my case with type 1) and injections. I take 4 jabs a day, breakfast, lunch, tea and bedtime, and at those times I eat to balance the insulin given (except for bedtime where I eat nothing).
I eat plenty of slow releasing carbs (cereals, rice, bread, pasta, most fruits), these are essential to keep my body on an even keel. If I eat fast releasing sugary products (chocolate, cakes, biscuits, pastries, sweets, etc) then I will get a quick boost of sugar, but the bad thing is that as it goes up fast (my blood sugar level) it also follows that it then falls extremely rapidly and it may actually cause a low blood sugar later on. Similarly alcohol reduces your blood sugar levels but in a delayed way, usually in the middle of the night or early the next day (if taken on the evening before). It is very complicated the interaction between different foods and drinks, and this combined with what you do as an individual (e.g. sitting down all day, or going for a run, even playing with the kids, etc) over time during the day and at which points of the day means that you have a very complex situation. If you are elderly I suspect it is a bit easier because you tend to sit down more and therefore your day is predictable. Regular meals with whatever medication (adjusted to suit the individual) should keep the body balanced. If you have been recently diagnosed you may need to see your doctor to discuss your insulin dosage, and see a dietician, this is very important until you find the right control.
As I said, I play football (old mans non-competitive stuff! :wink: ) on a Thursday night just to keep sort of fit, we play at 9pm for one hour of 5aside, and I have to reduce my insulin beforehand and afterwards to prevent myself from going into a hypo the following morning at about 11am! I don't always get it right, but I do make sure I check my blood sugars the following morning as well as before and after the game so that I can eat something extra as needed. But the exercise is really needed so it is about managing these different situations.
You mention embarrassment, this is a tricky thing for some, I guess I have never been shy/embarrassed about injecting in front of people. It is something you have to do and I feel that if people know that I am diabetic that it is good for them to know. I inject myself at the restaurant table at work simply because I need to know and estimate how much insulin to inject before I eat the meal I have bought. Until I have bought the meal I can not say how much to inject. So then my colleagues get to see this happening and they are used to it. Unless someone else is particularly squeamish I don't think they mind. They cant see it anyway. I feel that it is very important to be open about it and let people know. Then if anything does happen to you they know immediately that it may be as a result of diabetes.
I apologise to those of you who already know this, and hope that some of it may be of use to somebody out there. Basically, Milkman, as Martyn says you need to talk to your Mum.
All the best
HM