Graham Orm
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Without going into specifics, I've had a distressing week. After thinking I was doing a favour for an inlaw, being accused of 'milking' the job. Disgusted, upset and angry. Never again!
Grayorm":1tw3cyrs said:Without going into specifics, I've had a distressing week. After thinking I was doing a favour for an inlaw, being accused of 'milking' the job. Disgusted, upset and angry. Never again!
Random Orbital Bob":1f554or4 said:send a second invoice through the post
Lons":2pj8rh2s said:Many of us have been there and I'm in a situation where with a large extended family I do a lot of work for free. I don't mind really but what does get me is that they expect a lifetime service as well. eg fitted a hardwood door 10 years ago and it's warped a little due to damp as it hasn't been properly maintained. this particular relative took offence when I said it wasn't my responsibility to put it right. Then when he asked to borrow my tools so one of his mates could do the work he didn't like my reply so it's a bit strained :roll:
Given my time over, I would refuse all but my parents and kids which I would do FOC
Bob
Grayorm":1vay2ib5 said:That's a sad one Bob. Your last line will be my response to any other family from now on.
doctor Bob":3p2ztmc1 said:I refuse to work for my wife.....
Lons":1sk4p5yt said:Grayorm":1sk4p5yt said:That's a sad one Bob. Your last line will be my response to any other family from now on.
Not a close relative and I never really liked him anyway so not difficult to ignore him and hasn't caused me a problem :wink:
It's him who lost out because if he hadn't been so bullish I would have looked at it, ( his words were "you fitted it and it shouldn't have warped so when will you come round and put it right" ). So he's done me a favour in a strange way as I've hardened my attitude a little.
It's not just families though, I do a lot of small favours and most people are very genuine and grateful, I often get "proper" work as a result and am a great believer that what goes around comes around but there are always those who take the proverbial. That's where the once bitten, twice shy bit kicks in.
e.g. A few years ago a neighbour "friend" asked for the loan of one of my cement mixers for the weekend so he could build a small garden wall around his oil tank. After 2 weeks I had to go and ask for it back and found out he'd actually borrowed it for a mate to build his wall as well as other work. To add insult, his mate hadn't cleaned it properly and bashed it with a hammer. A few choice words expressed my disgust and he must be thick skinned as he's asked for tools since - never got them though , just sent him off with a flea in his ear!
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