Forum attitudes lately

[monkeybiter]

i'm a member of another forum on an unrelated subject which is populated in the majority by north Americans and moderated chiefly by an Englishman. There is a wealth of technical knowledge and experience but a severe dearth of good manners and general friendliness. Insults, racism and bigotry are quite common, even from the mod. It's lively and useful but not nice to visit.
I am a newbie to this forum but have been astounded by the welcome I was given, and the consistently friendly and good natured posts between all the regular contributors. Even though I'm short of time to make, I seem to find time to visit the forum every day.
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Mike

[big soft moose]

and if you say anything contentious preface it with IMO (in my opinion) so you arent stating it as a fact - in my view the biggest reason for fallings out is people seeming to state that only their way/ view/opinion/ whatever is valid wheras in fact there are many different ways to approach nearly any task or argument.
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[cornucopia]

I'm also backing off from this forum- i cant belive how much its changed since i joined
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[Karl]

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[Harbo]

IMHO I take all posts as such - unless the poster is making it clear it is from another source.

Everybody is entitled to their own opinions but they should express it such that it does not offend other people reading them.

Many posts which are supposed to be witty or jokes do not always come across as such - the use of emoticons can help there?

My policy is to try to ignore the threads which are "going down hill" and certainly ones where certain people are involved - IMHO they seem to enjoy making trouble?

And never ever loose your temper - you only come across the worse?

Rod

[Philly]

It's a toughy - all I can say is before you post take a deep breath and read what you've typed. If you have any doubts about posting it - don't. Come back to it later and see how you feel - the instant you take offence and retaliate we end up with some of the threads you have seen on the forum lately.
It all comes down to this - if you don't add fuel to the fire it will fizzle out.

It's not always easy being the bigger man (or woman) but its the only way to keep the forum on the straight and narrow - additional rules will only confuse things and banning "idiots" doesn't help because they love winding good folk up.

Only my thoughts...
Philly
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[Karl]

Rob - if I ended my "quote" with "and anybody using any other method is a to$$er", then i'd agree.

Like you say, it is the remoteness of an internet forum which is the prime problem.

Xcaliburs fine, BTW. How's the Kity?

Cheers

Karl

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[Karl]

Scares the living daylights out of me every time I fire it up!

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[kasandrich]

I have not been around this forum for long, but I have been around others for a very long time and even ran one for a couple of years. What I have learned from my experience is, I think (IMO ) we would all do well to realise, that we should "never attribute to malice anything which can be attributed to ignorance", thats something my Dad taught me and it serves me well in life in general.

What that means is that if someone has upset you, it is more likely to be accidental than on purpose, give them the benifit of doubt, this is good for harmony.

Also in my experience, if you have a real trouble maker, and that is often identifiable by turning to abuse/threats in PMs rather than on the open forum, then that person is best dealt with quickly and firmly by moderators, otherwise it just turns into bickering.

All of the above is just my opinion, of my experiences, does not constitute the opinion of anyone else and is not the only opinion available.
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